Empowering Your Decisions

By · April 6, 2008 · Filed in Awareness, Change, Growth, Intention

Making a decision, even seemingly simple and non-threatening can be a frightful act to a lot of people. Many people are afraid of making decisions in fear that they will make a wrong one. Fearing that a wrong decision can be harmful, even fatal, people are locked into paralysis by over-analysis, meaning they are over-thinking their situation and unable to decide.


If you would like to make decisions more quickly, less painfully and more purposefully, here are the 3 D’s of Decision that you must keep in consideration.


Discern– In order to make a decision you first need to indentify a fork in the road. Your awareness and observation at the initial point that a decision arises will allow you to evaluate on a course of action. You cannot make a decision if you are unaware that you even have a choice, or similarly you cannot create your world if subconsciously you are reacting to a situation.


Take a minute to discern what you will have to do differently to make the change happen. Remember that indecision is still a decision and you will have to change your behaviour if you expect anything else to change. Identify what your options are, even if you currently don’t have the willpower to commit to following through. Awareness is the first step of change.


Be patient with yourself and don’t be afraid to explore the underlying causes of undesirable behaviour. Keep digging deeper until you’ve found the root cause of your indecision.



Decide – The next step in empowering your decisions is to simply decide. Your probably thinking if it was that easy to decide in the first place then you wouldn’t be reading this article. However, armed with the new information uncovered during the Discern stage, you know have the ability understand what is holding you back and build a new habit of overcoming it.


When it comes to taking responsibility for life keep in mind these ten two-letter words, “if it is to be it is up to me”. Taking control in your decisions is empowering, it feels good and makes you feel like a winner. It is a self-esteem deposit in your ability to make future decisions. Your ability to become decisive has to start somewhere, why not start with the decision to change how you decide?


Keep in mind that change happens incrementally, especially on a large scale. Most change is slow to evolve and it unfolds from the inside. Even the worlds largest tree and apple grows slowly from within. Celebrate the small successes as you move toward the bigger goal.



Disregard – Once you have made a decision you practice letting go any attachment to an outcome. I know you are probably thinking the reason you made the decision is because you desired that outcome. It doesn’t mean that you don’t still hope that outcome (or better) happens, it means that you will not beat yourself up or get emotionally unbalanced if it doesn’t arise.


Roadblocks and setbacks are going to be a part of the journey. You cannot avoid these any less than you can avoid deciding. Decision produces action which in turn results in successes and failures, acknowledge each one as equals and use them both as learning opportunities. Stay positive.


Be confident in yourself and have an expectation of success. Inner strength is the ability to stay strong even in the face of the most difficult of circumstances. Have faith in yourself and remain positive about the process. There will be ups and downs and the path is never straight. It takes courage to embrace our destiny as confident decision makers. 

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