Reframing The Situation

By · May 9, 2008 · Filed in Awareness, Growth, Habits, Intention

Today I was asked to join my friends for lunch in downtown Calgary. As I perused for a parking spot I ended up parking at the lot the building of the restaurant was on. To my surprisethe parking was not owned by the restaurant but was a private lot that wanted almost $16 to park for 2 hours!

Well even though I would be a bit late I decided to re-park my car in hopes for free parking or hourly meters. Right around the corner there was a spot with a meter, I turned the car around slipped into the space and proceeded to pay. Even though this method was fractionally cheaper, fractionally if you factor in gas and environmental taxes, yet still I felt like I decided where my money was going, the mental difference appeased me for now.

After enjoying a meal filled with big laughs amongst great friends I walked to my car alone pondering my earlier parking experience. I was resisting something back in the original parking lot, was it the fact that I didn’t have $16 in change and I didn’t have a credit card on me? Did I feel that the price was unjust? Whatever it was I wanted to reframe the day so that I wasn’t “complaining” about parking prices and telling my story.

When I got to my car the meter I parked at still had time remaining and I must admit my first thought was, “Oh great, what a waste of money”, and perhaps something along the lines of “maybe I should sit in my car for a while to get my moneys worth” may have entered my mind. The point was that I caught myself trying to find the negative in the situation. This is the awareness stage.

The awareness stage is the gateway to all change. I had noticed the situation and brought it to consciousness. With this awareness I knew I had a choice, do nothing and allow my habitual ways of acting continue to be reinforced, or interrupt that pattern of behaviour just this one time and do something different. The opportunity to build something new in my brain sent the excitement endorphins down my body and I decided to act.

I walked over to the meter and put the rest of my change in the machine. After a couple hours worth maximum time allowed I got back into my car, dropped the top to sip some sun and zoomed away before any potential receipient could pass by. I envisioned someone who didn’t have any change parking in the spot, or someone who could know afford to stay and chat a little while longer with a friend.

Whoever it is I wonder if they can feel the intention of bliss and joy that I consciously bundled it with. Does it make them feel lucky and if so, is that a warm and happy feeling? It doesn’t matter, I am not attached to the outcome. I consciously created with the intention of someone else’s good outcome. And that ladies and gentlemen made me feel good and added a little more perspective to lighten up the day.

See if you can notice yourself behaving in a typical way that is familiar to you. When you notice yourself in this mode, ask yourself gently: “I know where this road goes, would I like to change the destination now?”

If the answer is yes then use the example of my parking lot story to help you get an idea of how to reframe your thinking to build brand new experiences that stimulate your spirit.

How can you reframe an outlook that doesn’t serve you, by first accepting it and then figuring out a way to move past the seemingly scary parts?

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