5 Emotional Control Techniques

By · February 23, 2010 · Filed in energy · 1 Comment »

Have you ever reacted to a person or situation in a particular way and later regretted the manner in which you handled it?  Did you let your emotions get in the way of making good decisions?  If you answered yes, you are not alone.  Emotions such as anger, sadness, anxiety and fear can cause people to act rashly and make decisions they wouldn’t otherwise make.

The choices you make regarding your future are far too important to let emotions get in the way.  Making decisions regarding your future should be handled while you are relaxed and confident rather than emotionally high or low.  These emotions can interfere with your ability to think clearly and rationally.

So how do you control these emotions?  How can you deal positively with their effects and bring yourself under control?  Below are five powerful techniques for emotional control that have been proven to work.

1.  NLP Swish Technique

The NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming technique called the Swish, is a very popular emotional controltechnique.  In the Swish, you are taught to replace an unwanted thought or response with a more appropriate and useful one, thus redirecting your thought process.  You are sending a message to the brain that essentially says, “Don’t do that, do THIS.”

This is a valuable technique that teaches you to manage your own thinking and consciously change the wayyou react to various situations.  Each time you use the Swish, you are training your brain to switch or re-direct from harmful emotional responses to solutions that are well thought out and rational.

Using the Swish

1. The first step is to develop your own Replacement Feeling.  Ideally, how would you like to act in the face of stress?  Use visualization to clearly see yourself experiencing this new feeling.

2. Discover the trigger for the unwanted mood.  Ask yourself. “What seems to always occur immediately prior to the stress I feel?”

3. While viewing the unwanted image in your mind, insert the replacement feeling into the corner of that picture.  If the undesirable image was a post card, look at the healthy replacement feeling as a stamp in the corner of the card.

4. Now Swish the two images.  Slowly allow the replacement feeling to grow and gradually take up more of the post card.  Continue until the new feeling is the primary and foremost image.

It takes practice, but regular implementation of this technique will help you become more relaxed and empowered in the face of stress and negativity.

2.  The Sedona Method

The Sedona method is a technique geared to help people let go of unwanted feelings and emotions and replace them with more positive ones.  It is performed using a series of questions meant to help increase your awareness of the present moment.

Most experts will agree that when people are frustrated they act in a frustrated manner. The same is true of other emotions.  Using the questions promoted by the Sedona Method, people are able to clearly define each situation for what it really is and act accordingly.  The ability to alter the way things are perceived can reduce stress foster confidence.

3.  EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Tapping

The technique known as EFT Tapping has been around for quite a while, and many swear by the results. Simply stated, it involves tapping various parts of the body—wrist, eyebrow, cheek, etc—while uttering certain statements aloud.  This technique is thought to alter normal reactions to stimuli and promote healing.  The tapping is thought to release the power within—a power to help make calmer more productive decisions.

4.  Visualization

We can change the way we will react to a stressful situation simply by seeing it first.  Picture yourself reacting calmly and confidently in a situation that normally causes you distress.  Give the picture as much detail as possible, making it look truly achievable.  If you train yourself to see positive results before they happen they have a much better chance of materializing.

Tips for visualization:

· Find a quiet comfortable place

· Clear your mind and breathe deeply

· Create a clear picture of what you want to happen

· Recognize distractions and let them go

· Repeat often

5.  Freeze Framing

Think of the thoughts in your head as individual frames in a movie.  What would you do if you could freeze one particular frame that caused you distress?

The Freeze Frame technique allows you to do just that.  With your eyes closed picture a frame that has given you emotional trouble and freeze it.  While the image is in your mind, breathe deeply and recognize each breath.  As you begin to relax, you will find you are able to deal more appropriately with the emotions that scene produces.  Picture yourself acting calmly and decisively in the face of troubling thoughts or events.

7 Tips for Hiring a Life Coach

By · January 18, 2010 · Filed in Information · 1 Comment »

Do you need a Life Coach?  Do you know what a Life Coach is?  Are you in the Alberta area and looking for Calgary Life Coach? In this post I will explain in more detail the roles of life coaches and how best to hire one.

Many people think the use of a Life Coach signifies an inability for handling the challenges of one’s own life.  They believe only weak people require the assistance of a coach.  This is simply not true.  Why else would people like Tiger Woods, Oprah Winfrey and Derek Jeter have personal coaches.  The reason is because a Life Coach helps people maximize their potential and seeks to aid individuals who want to get the very best out of their lives.  If anything, the use of a Life Coach represents strength of character and the will to succeed.

Another misperception is that Life Coaches are therapists, although a therapist could choose to become a Life Coach.  A Life Coaches role in an individuals’ life differs significantly from the typical doctor patient relationship.  Life Coaches consider themselves equal to the people they tutor, not superior.  Their primary goal is to help individuals set goals for their lives, focusing only on the present and the future.  Because they lack a proven process such as Subconscious Restructuring, many Life Coaches seldom deal in emotions. Life Coaches are typically far less concerned about the past than most therapists. Life Coaches focus on the future.

If you would like to achieve more out of life but are a bit unsure about how to proceed, a Life Coach may be able to help you start your personal development journey.  Below are 7 tips for hiring a Life Coach:

1. Hire someone you feel comfortable with.

You’ll be spending a lot of time with your new Life Coach so it’s important to choose someone with whom you get along well.  Just like a good teacher can make the difference in your academic endeavors, a life coach whom you trust and get along with is essential for your personal/professional changes. Life is much too short to spend time with people you dislike.

You should choose someone who can be objective to your overall goals.  Do you want competency or companionship?  You are not looking for another friend but rather someone to keep you accountable to the standard you know you can achieve.  Avoid people who are too close to you such as family and close friends.

2. Has your Interests in Mind.

Make certain that whoever you hire has your best interests in mind.  You can find differences among life coaches such as you would find differences among any other practitioner.  Find someone to work with who is genuinely interested in your success and try to avoid those people who are merely trying to “hitch a ride”.

One way to establish a connection is to explain to your Life Coach the goals you have for your life and ask for feedback on how he/she will proceed.  How many times a month will you meet?  What communication channels will you use to connect?  What kind of access do you have to them?  Most importantly, do you believe this person will give you a solid chance on establishing the changes you want to see?

3. Communicates Well.

It is very important that your Life Coach is able to clearly communicate his plans for helping you achieve your goals.  The ability to communicate effectively is extremely important in establishing a winning relationship.  Insist upon an open line of communication where each party feels equally comfortable expressing their views.

Your relationship with your Life Coach will evolve and grow over time as your needs and requirements do. The only way to ensure you are moving forward together on the same page is through consistent and concise communication. You have to be willing to step up to the plate and voice your opinion, and your Life Coach has to be able to keep that communication going.

4. Hire someone who is qualified.

The application and interview process should be taken quite seriously, and used to find the very best person for the help you want.  Hiring a life coach is an important task, and therefore your qualifying criteria should help to establish your best chance of success.

Many people wonder if you should get a Life Coach who is certified or not.  This is a great question and will depend on your ultimate goal.  In theory, certified Life Coaches have been taught how work with you to achieve your goal.  However, because it is a school, not everyone that graduates as a Life Coach is as effective at retaining and applying that they have learned.

Uncertified Life Coaches who have been practicing on the other hand many have developed many skills although they haven’t gone to school.  The comparison between a certified and uncertified Life Coach is very similar to a licensed mechanic and a hobby mechanic.  You can find the good, bad and ugly in both cases.

Make certain that the person you hire has the experience for helping you effectively.  What types of coaching has he/she done in the past and how does it apply to your situation.

5. Check References.

Remember, when you hire a Life Coach, you are the employer.  Talk to people who have used this person’s services in the past, and get a feel for what to expect.  Do they have testimonials that you can check?  What do the testimonials and feedback tell you about working with this person.

What kind of vibe do you get from the people who have left references or testimonials?  Can you identify with their problem/situation/personality?  For obvious reasons it is always a good idea to avoid people with characteristics detrimental to your plan.

6. Hire a Motivator

If the first meeting with your new Life Coach fails to get you excited about the goals you seek in life, the person is probably not for you.  This doesn’t mean that you should feel excited because the person you hired is going to solve the problem for you. The motivation you feel should come from knowing that by working with this person, it is only a matter of time before you get the results you want.

Your Life Coach should be a champion to your cause, a partner towards your success and a support tool to hold you accountable.  Your Life Coach should be excited about your future and that excitement should be infectious.  Choose somebody who can truly motivate you towards great things.

7. Has Connections.

It certainly is not mandatory to hire only those people with connections in the area you seek assistance, but it sure does help.  Your Life Coach will work with you to plan your life, setting goals and objectives for each step.  Connections to important people in your particular field can greatly enhance the chance for success.  Sometimes it really does come down to “who you know.”

Does your Life Coach have professional connections and a team of people working along side them?  Do you feel comfortable in the hands of this extended support network?  Could they easily refer you out to another trusted professional if needed?

Keep these things in mind when you are ready to hire your Life Coach.  Remember that the process is all about you, and the proper person should be someone whom you trust with your dreams.  If you would like to see how Russ conducts his famous “Exploration Sessions”, which are known for leaving people feeling motivated and excited about the changes they seek, contact him today and ask to be put on the next available schedule.