The previous blog post discussed 3 tips to help you thrive and not just survive when it comes to school. Here are the remaining 4 tips, keep these in mind and you’ll be sure to experience an absolutely amazing school year.
School is a time to discover new things including yourself. Learning new things gives you the opportunity to change and grow with new information. Have you recognized your own growth over the past few years? In what ways have you grown and matured? What do you classes to you enjoy? What subjects are you good at? What new courses or projects will excite you to take on this year?
It may seem selfish to spend time thinking about yourself but if you don’t do it, nobody else will! Therefore, you might as well start to get to know yourself because no matter where you go, there you’ll be. You can never lose yourself. The sooner you start inquiring into these questions the sooner you can start to receive answers for creating more fun, joy and results in your life.
If you discover only one thing this year, discover the values in which you stand for. Why is it important to know what you stand for in school? Because if you do not know what you stand for, you simply may just fall for anything.
What should you stand for? Keep it simple and real by always standing for what you believe in your heart.
You are a powerful being that is constantly unfolding a new person from within. School provides the perfect opportunity to stretch yourself. Nature also grows based upon this principal, for example picture the development of a tree. The tree doesn’t get bigger because the bark grows from the exterior, the tree grows from the inside out. You do too!
Don’t buy into the pressure to seek “material” success. The fanciest pencil case, cool shoes or most expensive jeans, etc. These are all exterior representations of yourself, and we all know what matters and counts is what’s on the inside. No matter what the appearances are on the outside, the real question you need to be concerned about is: “Are you happy with the person who is inside?”
Are you unfolding into a fair, joyful, giving, kind and loving person? Or.. are you continuing to practice being a person who is jealous, angry, vindictive, revengeful and full of fear? In life, the fruits of your labour will depend on what type of tree you are. The good news is, this decision is solely yours to make.
Use your Imagination to explore the following ‘Power Questions’:
“What kind of tree am I becoming?”, “What fruits do I wish to bear this year?”, ”What keeps me firmly rooted during bad weather?”
One of the biggest investments you can make in your future right now is to learn to be comfortable when you are uncomfortable. More specifically, you must learn how to view failure in a healthy way in order to learn and grow from the experience. To avoid being paralyzed in fear you must adopt a perspective along the lines that says: “Experience is what occurs when I fall short of my goals.”
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” -Theodore Roosevelt
The secret that smart and successful people have realized is that they will never be completely comfortable when doing something new, so they just practice doing it anyway. In fact, the only difference between successful and unsuccessful people is that successful people in life make a habit of doing the things that the unsuccessful people are too uncomfortable doing.
When you practice being comfortable when doing new things you are building your ability to respond, or your response-ability. If you resist the feeling of experiencing the uncomfortable feeling, you will never be able to practice being comfortable in new situations because you will be too busy “being” uncomfortable.
It is delusional to think that feeling good about doing something will come before the practice. Feelings always lag behind action. Get familiar to the proper order of things by practicing doing something new without judgement or reservation. You goal is to practice doing something you are not very good at and experience whatever feelings arise.
Before, during, and after you try something new, say the following power affirmation(s) out loud to yourself:
Personal Power Affirmations: “I am a winner”, ” “I can win”, “I will do prevail!”
What activities do you want to participate in? What ‘good’ are you going to contribute too this year?
Are you a good team player? Can people count on you? Can you rely on other people? Do other people benefit in a positive way from having you around? The only way to be an effective person is to start practicing. Volunteer work and team sports are two great environments to practice your participation muscle.
Joining a team or becoming a member of a group can help you foster the social dynamic skills necessary to compete in today’s “real world”. Remember, when you graduate out of school you will still have to deal with other people and work in groups, so the sooner you start preparing to be an effective team player the better.
Begin by researching places you would like to volunteer. Do you want to rescue animals? How about being a Big Sister or Big Brother? Feed the homeless? You could even volunteer to babysit for neighbors so that they can enjoy a romantic night out. Volunteering is also great for connecting with people who believe in the same cause. If you cannot give your time then find a cause you can afford to support financially.
Another way you could get active is by joining a team, club or association. Teamwork teaches you social dynamics, accountability and discipline. Working with people can teach you a lot about your self and your emotions. The sooner you learn how to manage your emotional state the better. Learning discipline is also easier with the guidance of a school coach and the support of teammates.
What are some sports that appeal to you that will get your heart racing and exercise the mind? Not athletic at all? Try running or jogging because doing 10 minutes or more of aerobic exercise will help dose those grumpy feelings and help to moderate your mood.
Keep this list in mind the next time you want to craft up an amazing school year. Some of these exercises and questions may seem difficult at first but the sooner you start exploring your values and answering some of these tough questions the easier your year will be. You can not change what you are not aware of. The sooner you discover your unsupportive habits of thinking, feeling and doing, the faster you can get onto things you really enjoy.
September is that time of year when the bus stops start to get busy and the smell of pencil crayons begins to permeate the air. Yes people… I am talking about back to school time! School is a paradox, it can mean different things to different people. Ask 9 people about what they think about school and you will be sure to collect 9 different answers. So are there any similarities in our scholastic experience?
Turns out that there are indeed some interesting similarities. For instance, no matter how long you have been out of school it still probably seems like yesterday for you doesn’t it? Yet if you are reading this and still in school, no matter how many have past already, the days still can’t seem to go quick enough can they? Since school is a topic that most of us are familiar with, I will use the most important information that I’ve learned since being out of school as the premise of this post.
Here is the short list of 7 things it takes to thrive not just survive when it comes to school. If you follow these you will be sure to set yourself up for experiencing an absolutely amazing school year.
Did you know that indecision is still a decision? If you decide to do nothing, you are still deciding to do something, it just happens to be nothing. In order to get good grades, have a social life and enjoy a good year you must first decide.
Decision is supported by the unseen hand of the Universe. When you decide the world will conspire with you. Decide to make this year different no matter what the previous year (or years) have been like. You are the residual result of your previous decisions, the choice you made in the past. Today and every day following it offers the chance to make new choices, and with those, the opportunity to obtain new results.
What could you decide to work on today that would move you closer to having the type of school year you want?
When in doubt remember… The most important decision you can ever make at any time is to be yourself.
Forgiveness is not just something that priests do. Forgiveness is a powerful force in nature. Students who learn how to master this ‘tough’ teacher usually find the lesson of “love”. Love is only important if you want to nurture your soul. Could you use more care, attention or love in your life? To receive more of these wonderful feelings we must first learn how to forgive.
You must learn to forgive yourself and forgive others no matter how bad you goofed or how big someone screwed up. Realize that no one can hurt us without our permission, therefore, we must always choose to learn, heal and grow from our let downs.
The truth is we are all trying to do our best with the best we have learned so far. It is wrong to assume people think, feel and behave the way you were brought up. We are all raised differently with individual motivations.
Ask yourself, how will carrying around these feelings of resentment help your grades? Will a lack of self-esteem help you perform better? The obvious answer is no they won’t. You want to “teach someone a lesson”, why don’t you step up and be a bigger person by demonstrating the lesson of forgiveness?
Remember: If there is a will there is a way. Can you find a way to forge through your forgiveness?
High school is a time to develop and establish friendships. What else do you expect to do for the rest of the year while being stuck in the same rooms with the same strangers? It’s time to get better at getting to know your classmates. You might as well practice your people skills because the opportunity doesn’t get any better or any easier.
School is the time to make friendships that may last a lifetime. Good friends are rare to find and even rarer to hold on to. Enjoy the people who come into your life no matter who long they stay.
Why not make it this months goal to find at least one new friend? You don’t have to be instant best-buds or perma-pals, and be sure you seek and surround yourself with only quality people. Make friends with multiple groups of people and this will diversify your circle of friends. It is unhealthy to expose yourself to only one source of information because it develops a limited perspective.
Expand your sphere of influence and the type of information you expose yourself to by engaging in genuine small-talk with your fellow school mates. Search for people you find interesting or that find you interesting. This doesn’t mean you have to talk to everybody or be fake for the sake of making conversation. Showing a genuine interest in others is a quality that is instantly recognized and always appreciated by others.
Challenge: Promise yourself to make acquaintances with at least one new person a day.
The next post will discuss 4 other easy but effective tips to make your school year amazing.