Have you ever reacted to a person or situation in a particular way and later regretted the manner in which you handled it? Did you let your emotions get in the way of making good decisions? If you answered yes, you are not alone. Emotions such as anger, sadness, anxiety and fear can cause people to act rashly and make decisions they wouldn’t otherwise make.
The choices you make regarding your future are far too important to let emotions get in the way. Making decisions regarding your future should be handled while you are relaxed and confident rather than emotionally high or low. These emotions can interfere with your ability to think clearly and rationally.
So how do you control these emotions? How can you deal positively with their effects and bring yourself under control? Below are five powerful techniques for emotional control that have been proven to work.
1. NLP Swish Technique
The NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming technique called the Swish, is a very popular emotional controltechnique. In the Swish, you are taught to replace an unwanted thought or response with a more appropriate and useful one, thus redirecting your thought process. You are sending a message to the brain that essentially says, “Don’t do that, do THIS.”
This is a valuable technique that teaches you to manage your own thinking and consciously change the wayyou react to various situations. Each time you use the Swish, you are training your brain to switch or re-direct from harmful emotional responses to solutions that are well thought out and rational.
Using the Swish
1. The first step is to develop your own Replacement Feeling. Ideally, how would you like to act in the face of stress? Use visualization to clearly see yourself experiencing this new feeling.
2. Discover the trigger for the unwanted mood. Ask yourself. “What seems to always occur immediately prior to the stress I feel?”
3. While viewing the unwanted image in your mind, insert the replacement feeling into the corner of that picture. If the undesirable image was a post card, look at the healthy replacement feeling as a stamp in the corner of the card.
4. Now Swish the two images. Slowly allow the replacement feeling to grow and gradually take up more of the post card. Continue until the new feeling is the primary and foremost image.
It takes practice, but regular implementation of this technique will help you become more relaxed and empowered in the face of stress and negativity.
2. The Sedona Method
The Sedona method is a technique geared to help people let go of unwanted feelings and emotions and replace them with more positive ones. It is performed using a series of questions meant to help increase your awareness of the present moment.
Most experts will agree that when people are frustrated they act in a frustrated manner. The same is true of other emotions. Using the questions promoted by the Sedona Method, people are able to clearly define each situation for what it really is and act accordingly. The ability to alter the way things are perceived can reduce stress foster confidence.
3. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Tapping
The technique known as EFT Tapping has been around for quite a while, and many swear by the results. Simply stated, it involves tapping various parts of the body—wrist, eyebrow, cheek, etc—while uttering certain statements aloud. This technique is thought to alter normal reactions to stimuli and promote healing. The tapping is thought to release the power within—a power to help make calmer more productive decisions.
We can change the way we will react to a stressful situation simply by seeing it first. Picture yourself reacting calmly and confidently in a situation that normally causes you distress. Give the picture as much detail as possible, making it look truly achievable. If you train yourself to see positive results before they happen they have a much better chance of materializing.
Tips for visualization:
· Find a quiet comfortable place
· Clear your mind and breathe deeply
· Create a clear picture of what you want to happen
· Recognize distractions and let them go
· Repeat often
5. Freeze Framing
Think of the thoughts in your head as individual frames in a movie. What would you do if you could freeze one particular frame that caused you distress?
The Freeze Frame technique allows you to do just that. With your eyes closed picture a frame that has given you emotional trouble and freeze it. While the image is in your mind, breathe deeply and recognize each breath. As you begin to relax, you will find you are able to deal more appropriately with the emotions that scene produces. Picture yourself acting calmly and decisively in the face of troubling thoughts or events.
Most brain specialists believe that our mind is separated into two distinct parts: the conscious and the subconscious. The conscious half is the one that is aware and in the moment. It’s the part of the brain that makes decisions and provided focus for real-world tasks. The subconscious, on the other hand, is the portion of the brain that operates under the surface. People such as hypnotists suggest that the subconscious part of the brain is the key to creativity and innovation.
Sigmund Freud first introduced the theory of the conscious and subconscious mind. The conscious mind, said Freud, consists of those thoughts people have in the present and is responsible for a large part of how we behave. The subconscious, however, was responsible for the primitive drives and impulses that sometimes govern our thoughts. He believed these thoughts out of direct reach of the conscious mind, working independently to guide our thoughts and actions during times when we are not consciously aware. Naturally this theory alarmed many people, for according to Freud, people are unable to control some of the actions initiated by the subconscious mind.
Techniques for tapping the subconscious mind can be valuable in helping people maximize their potential. It is widely believed that conditions such as anxiety and depression stem from uncomfortable thoughts about events that happened in the past and that the only effective way to treat these illnesses lies in bringing these thoughts to the surface. Freud introduced a process called psychoanalysis in which he sought to identify troubling, hidden thoughts within the mind and bring them to the surface through therapy. To cure the person, he thought, we must first discover what is happening below the surface.
Other techniques have sought the same result as Freud’s psychoanalysis, and more are being developed each year. Here’s a few of the most widely used techniques for tapping the subconscious:
Hypnosis attempts to tap the subconscious mind through a process called hypnotic induction. It is initiated by a series of suggestions, either administered by a hypnotist or self administered, that guide individuals to a greater state of awareness.
Affirmations are positive thoughts that individuals repeat to themselves continually to effect a change in their mental state. For a list of 21 Positive Self-Talk Affirmations click here.
Autosuggestion is a process by which an individual trains the subconscious mind to believe something, or systematically schematizes the person’s own mental associations, usually for a given purpose. For instance, autosuggestion thoughts such as “it doesn’t hurt,” can help train the mind to cope with pain.
There are many more of course, but the above are some of the most widely used. Another method that is gaining popularity is Subconscious Restructuring, which is a conscious process to gain control of your subconscious mind.
The key is to remember that there is much more going on than you are currently aware of. Hidden thoughts and resentments can not only cause a great deal of stress, but can lead people to act in ways that are harmful or inappropriate.