Are You Well-Versed In Positive Self Talk?

By · January 17, 2008 · Filed in Awareness, Growth, Habits · No Comments »

This might come as a bit of a surprise but what you project forth into the world reflects back.

If you express love, you will receive love. Be respectable and gain respect. By becoming aware of our own internal dialogue or “self-talk” we gain choice. Choice over what we want to see in the world, choice over what we want to manifest in our reality. This is because our inner world creates the outer circumstance and events that we experience, only allowing an expression that is consistent with our inner most thoughts and beliefs.

Every time we possess a thought – of any kind- we have chosen it. If we chose to think negatively, to roll in garbage, to not monitor our mental thoughts – then we have chosen to be a product of bad thinking. Holding onto a thought is a choice, just like it’s our choice to insert a new one.

Like the original water that overflows because it’s being displaced from its container, the human mind can only hold one thought at a time. (Although we believe it holds more because it functions so rapidly). Therefore we displace the unsupportive thought in the conscious mind with a productive or positive affirmation. We can change our life by monitoring and improving the quality of our thoughts.

Become aware of the silent conversation you have with yourself. Listen to your self-talk, that is, what you are saying to yourself inside your head.

Are you a nurturing coach or a alarming critic?

Do you reinforce your own success or negate it?

Does your internal dialogue help grow your results or shrink your potential?

Do your thoughts magnetize or de-magnetize your ability to attract success?

If you find yourself using the “b” words in the first column, try substituting the “a” words instead:

Negative Self Talk Positive Self Talk
b. What if I try and fail? a. This will work for me!

b. This is difficult… a. Challenges are made to overcome!

b. I can’t do that… a. I’ll do that and to the best of my ability!

b. If only I were… a. Because I am smart I will do this

b. Why does this always happen? a. Good things always happen to me

b. I never get anything right… a. I always have what I need when I need it

b. I’m stuck in this rut… a. Now is a great time to get in the groove!

b. I’m such a screw-up a. Mistakes or only human and I like myself

b. I wish I had that… a. I have everything I need and more is on its way!

b. There goes another mistake… a. Things always work out for the best

b. I’ll never get there… a. I am reaching towards my inner most goals

b. I am cursed a. I am blessed

b. He’ll / She’ll never change a. I will change me today

b. Nobody cares as much as I do a. I want to do my best

b. I can’t lose weight a. I can eat healthier

b. My boss ignores me a. I will strive for excellence

b. Why don’t I ever get a break? a. I am not a helpless victim

b. I have no time to exercise a. I will make time to exercise

b. I’ll never get out of debt a. I take small steps each day towards my financial goals

b. He / She never listens a. I need to better understand him/her

b. My kids don’t respect me a. I will work to become a more effective parent

Hopefully these positive affirmations will give you some verbal ammo the next time stinkin’ thinking gets a hold of your mind. Try them out, you’ll be surprised at the immediate difference you will feel about the situation. If you have a powerful affirmation you would like to share with others, e-mail me at:

Onwards, Upwards, and Forwards!

Have You Conquered Yourself?

By · January 11, 2008 · Filed in Awareness, Change, Growth, Manifesting · 4 Comments »

Sometimes in the heat of battles between people, ideas, and institutions we become lost in the narrow focus of our best efforts. For example we might be so emotionally attached to an specific outcome it can blind us from seeing both reality and the best solution. We might have too much of a vested interest in “being right” or doing things the way we’ve always done them versus doing something new or doing the right thing.

“It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles.” — Buddha

To conquer yourself one must first know them self. Without knowing our emotional tendencies and hot buttons introduces an emotional bias to any situation and is as effective as it would be to put on a blindfold before you go sightseeing. In these situations if we truly intend to produce the most effective and efficient answer, then we need to focus on the parts of the equation that we DO have control over, ourselves.

“Conquering others takes force, conquering yourself is true strength.” — Lao Tzu

High performance is about getting through all the fog that’s from your past and stepping into your greatness, the real you. Stepping into your own personal clarity and power allows you intentionally perform in full capacity. It’s not about who you were or how you did things before, it is about deliberately and intentionally creating who you see yourself to be.

The process of growing into yourself is really all about the Law of Unfolding.

Read this powerful passage from the 1917 classic the ‘Conquering Yourself’ manual to gain a better understanding into this Law.

All progress of the individual is a matter of inner unfoldment. Life moves from
within, outwards. The germ or vitality is always at the center, not on the surface. The growth of the tree or the plant, of the animal or the fruit, is not that of adding on the outside, but a supply from the inside.

The individual determines his own position in life, according to the amount of
intelligent effort exerted. It is for this reason, that people NEVER WILL BE EQUAL, because there are those – the majority – who will not work to acquire this Inner Power

You, then, must rank among the Great, or the mediocre.

You have the conscious right to determine who you are at any given moment, no one can tell you who you are. You have the power to choose whether you will remain in the mediocre or rank amongst the great. No one can give this power to you, it is your birth right. However you can build a support team that can help you unlock your potential, and that alone could be all the difference.

During your growth you must constantly remember to exercise patience with yourself. Love yourself. Nurture yourself as if you were an acorn waiting to be fully expressed as a tree. Don’t beat yourself up for being a seed, celebrate your unfolding greatness of what you will grow into. Be you. Be great. Make your move.