Have you ever reacted to a person or situation in a particular way and later regretted the manner in which you handled it? Did you let your emotions get in the way of making good decisions? If you answered yes, you are not alone. Emotions such as anger, sadness, anxiety and fear can cause people to act rashly and make decisions they wouldn’t otherwise make.
The choices you make regarding your future are far too important to let emotions get in the way. Making decisions regarding your future should be handled while you are relaxed and confident rather than emotionally high or low. These emotions can interfere with your ability to think clearly and rationally.
So how do you control these emotions? How can you deal positively with their effects and bring yourself under control? Below are five powerful techniques for emotional control that have been proven to work.
1. NLP Swish Technique
The NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming technique called the Swish, is a very popular emotional controltechnique. In the Swish, you are taught to replace an unwanted thought or response with a more appropriate and useful one, thus redirecting your thought process. You are sending a message to the brain that essentially says, “Don’t do that, do THIS.”
This is a valuable technique that teaches you to manage your own thinking and consciously change the wayyou react to various situations. Each time you use the Swish, you are training your brain to switch or re-direct from harmful emotional responses to solutions that are well thought out and rational.
Using the Swish
1. The first step is to develop your own Replacement Feeling. Ideally, how would you like to act in the face of stress? Use visualization to clearly see yourself experiencing this new feeling.
2. Discover the trigger for the unwanted mood. Ask yourself. “What seems to always occur immediately prior to the stress I feel?”
3. While viewing the unwanted image in your mind, insert the replacement feeling into the corner of that picture. If the undesirable image was a post card, look at the healthy replacement feeling as a stamp in the corner of the card.
4. Now Swish the two images. Slowly allow the replacement feeling to grow and gradually take up more of the post card. Continue until the new feeling is the primary and foremost image.
It takes practice, but regular implementation of this technique will help you become more relaxed and empowered in the face of stress and negativity.
2. The Sedona Method
The Sedona method is a technique geared to help people let go of unwanted feelings and emotions and replace them with more positive ones. It is performed using a series of questions meant to help increase your awareness of the present moment.
Most experts will agree that when people are frustrated they act in a frustrated manner. The same is true of other emotions. Using the questions promoted by the Sedona Method, people are able to clearly define each situation for what it really is and act accordingly. The ability to alter the way things are perceived can reduce stress foster confidence.
3. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Tapping
The technique known as EFT Tapping has been around for quite a while, and many swear by the results. Simply stated, it involves tapping various parts of the body—wrist, eyebrow, cheek, etc—while uttering certain statements aloud. This technique is thought to alter normal reactions to stimuli and promote healing. The tapping is thought to release the power within—a power to help make calmer more productive decisions.
We can change the way we will react to a stressful situation simply by seeing it first. Picture yourself reacting calmly and confidently in a situation that normally causes you distress. Give the picture as much detail as possible, making it look truly achievable. If you train yourself to see positive results before they happen they have a much better chance of materializing.
Tips for visualization:
· Find a quiet comfortable place
· Clear your mind and breathe deeply
· Create a clear picture of what you want to happen
· Recognize distractions and let them go
· Repeat often
5. Freeze Framing
Think of the thoughts in your head as individual frames in a movie. What would you do if you could freeze one particular frame that caused you distress?
The Freeze Frame technique allows you to do just that. With your eyes closed picture a frame that has given you emotional trouble and freeze it. While the image is in your mind, breathe deeply and recognize each breath. As you begin to relax, you will find you are able to deal more appropriately with the emotions that scene produces. Picture yourself acting calmly and decisively in the face of troubling thoughts or events.
3 Powerful Visualization Techniques to Create a New You this New Year!
Visualization is a process in which you see things how you would like them to be. Prior to their turn at bat, for example, some professional baseball players practice visualization by seeing themselves making great contact with the ball and having a successful at bat. Actors picture a standing ovation after delivering an award winning performance. Both have found this technique helpful for achieving results they previously thought impossible.
Effective visualization requires very specific detail. It is not good enough to simply see yourself in your new house. To help clarify this dream, define the location of the house. Will you live on the beach? In the mountains? What color will the house be? How many rooms will it have? The clearer your picture the more real it will become.
There are many forms of visualization. Here we will discuss three of the most powerful techniques to help you achieve remarkable results in your life, simply by seeing them, in vivid detail, beforehand.
1. The Mental Movie
If you were to make a movie of your life, what would it be like? In this technique you act as the director of your life story and everything is possible. You create the scenery, the plot and the characters. You become the main character and every detail is up to you.
2. The Obituary
How do you want to be remembered? What do you want people to say about you at your funeral?
This technique allows you to write exactly what you want said when you are gone. The script you will write will highlight your career, your family and your friends. It will point out all your strong points and your successes. Picture yourself any way you want, and use this technique to define what is really important to you.
3. Letter to a Friend
Here you will write a letter to a friend, but instead of the usual format, you will project how you see yourself 5-10 years from now. When you write, picture yourself as having already achieved everything you want to accomplish during that time period. Be specific!
Regardless of the technique you choose, keep in mind these important details:
1. Find a quiet, comfortable place where you won’t be distracted
2. Breathe deeply
3. Concentrate on what you want and your breathing alone. Let go of all additional thoughts.
4. Be very specific. Picture yourself and everything around you exactly how you want it to be. Give your picture color, texture, depth and clarity.
5. When finished, continue breathing and allow your vision to escape, knowing you can call on it again whenever necessary.
6. Repeat the process regularly and often. As you continue to use visualization, you will find it easier and easier to create the positive pictures in your mind.
If you really want to see your results skyrocket, combine your newly developed visualization skills with the power to Manifest with your Imagination!